Monday, March 19, 2007

The Right Partner

My fren just broke up with a guy whom she was with for more than 3yrs. She told me that she could not stop crying, and everything that she sees, touches, hears reminds her of him. She laid in bed the whole of today, drifting in n out of sleep, amidst her tears. The guy's mind was apparently set, even though she pleaded with him not to let go. It was all not to be, cos he said tt he wanted to be alone and he didn't see a future tog.

I noe I am not in a position to judge, bcos I dun noe the exact details of wat happened btw them. But it saddens me tt the guy took 3yrs to realise tt he couldn't see a future w my fren. His approach to a relationship was macromanagement (see the big picture), whereas hers was micromanagement (I need the details).

She wanted him to tell her where he was, who he was with etc, but he was simply content to noe that she was safe. Apparently this got serious enough to the extent of invoking trust issue and wat hv u. The foundation of the relationship was thus shaken to the pt of no return after 3 yrs of such constant doubts and reassurance needed.

How can we ever noe if the partner we choose is right for us? The one who will walk down the aisle with us, the one who will go thru thick n thin w us, who will accompany us thru the gd times, as well as in sickness n trouble? I guess the answer is we can never be sure. Wat we can only do is to make sure that we are the right one for our chosen partners. As for the rest, let our hearts do the tokking, as we continue on our life journey, walking in faith and believing in each other.